you are a Lair!

How many times a day do you lie?

“What ever do you mean? I’m not a liar!” Oh yes you are!

The question is not whether you lie or not, it is how often and to what degree.
I lie. Just lied the other night….walking in old town to dinner with family and we were approached by a “petition person” who wanted our time and attention on a “very important subject”. As she asked for a moment of your time…I didn’t want to talk to her, felt a little resentful that “I can’t even walk around in my own town without someone soliciting you”. SO I said...as I kept my pace. We don’t have time. In the past I’ve said...sorry I’m already late. Or...no I’m not interested. All of which are lies. The truth is that I wasn’t interested at that time (no matter the cause)…I get annoyed when I’m solicitation on the street corner, by phone, and especial at my front door. And the truth is I could have told her the truth!
I could have said: I appreciate your passion and commitment (truth) but I don’t like being solicited to no matter the cause (truth), so I wish you luck and have a great day. (Truth)

So you may be thinking…what’s’ the big deal. So you tell a few “white lies” … well this is why it’s a big deal:
Because inside…your subconscious knows you’re a liar. It does not distinguish between white lies or hurtful lies. (Hurtful lies hold extra energy: like being mean/angry/resentful/ect.) I’m just talking about lying. And so we do believe that we are liars and since we don’t like/respect/appreciate liars…it effects our self esteem. We start to reject the parts of ourselves that we “don’t like”… which causes self hatred in subtle and not so subtle ways.
SO I ask you: In what areas in your life…is lying easier than telling the truth? How many times a day or around certain issues do you lie to yourself? What parts of yourself have you rejected? Who have you rejected because they act out the parts of yourself that you have rejected?

Here’s another place I used to lie about all the time! “I’m going to go work out tomorrow”… then tomorrow comes and I say “well, I’m really busy today and I just don’t think I can fit it in”. Sound familiar? The other way that being a Liar shows up is….NOT keeping your Word! How many times do you not keep your word to yourself?

So for today...try this on. Tell the truth. And if you can’t tell the truth to someone (say they ask if you like there new haircut and you think it is truly hideous…and you don’t want to hurt their feelings) try saying “it’s really different from your last one…I really love that your open to change and trying something new. That’s awesome!!!!” and yes…they may realize that you don’t love it…and that is OK…They asked! Part of the cycle of being a society of liars...is that we lie to ourselves, we lie to others, and we expect to be lied to. All of which...in the long run…erode our self esteem, disconnect ourselves to our Truth, and put our attention on being fake vs. being authentic.

The road to Authenticity…
Step one: admit you’re a liar. Step two: Start telling the truth….